The Habits Of Sexually Satisfied Couples
Because a healthy sex life is an important part of a healthy relationship.
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A gigantic survey asked couples about their sex lives, and identified habits common among couples who report high levels of sexual satisfaction. In general, satisfied couples are more open and communicative with each other in and out of the bedroom.
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While regular, reliable sex isn't a very good standalone reason to commit to a relationship, it's certainly a nice perk. But too often, people enter relationships and find that the sex quickly becomes neither regular nor reliable, and at best reliably regular. Sexual dissatisfaction can wreck relationships, but most of us are at a loss when it comes to describing what it is we want, and what we're not getting. But according to one massive survey, sexual satisfaction is fairly simple: Couples need to be down for whatever.
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Distributed in 2006 by Chapman University professor David Frederick, the sexual survey garnered responses from an incredible 38,000 men and women, all of whom had been in relationships for at least three years. The survey questions delved deep, asking participants about their relationships and sex lives. In the end, a pattern emerged — sexually satisfied couples are open, both in and out of the bedroom. They're more likely to try new positions, talk dirty and even introduce toys during sex. Most importantly, they were more likely to openly discuss their sexual wants and needs with their partners.
Self-selection is a limiting factor in a study like this (the survey was posted online at a popular website), so it's maybe not surprising to hear that about a third of those surveyed reported feeling as satisfied with their sex lives now as they did at the beginning. It's also not surprising thatmore frequent sex and more consistent orgasms were correlated with higher satisfaction. It follows, then that higher sexual satisfaction is linked to greater relationship satisfaction overall. In fact, it goes both ways — overall relationship satisfaction was the single largest predictor for sexual satisfaction for both men and women.
It's important to remember that correlation and causation are two different things, and that simply adopting behaviors common among sexually satisfied couples probably won't be a magic bullet for your sex life — a little hair-pulling isn't going to have her pouncing on you at the door if if your relationship sucks otherwise. Frederick admitted as much on Dan Savage's podcast, but also added that it never hurts to try.
"For the dissatisfied couples, it's something they can take a look at and say 'Why don't we try this and see what happens?'," he said.
The whole study is free to read, and you should.
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