..... 12 other ways to make sex last longer
The average sex sessions lasts around five and a half minutes
IT’S a question asked by many couples: how can you make sex last longer?
Research from the University of Queensland has shown the average lovemaking session lasts about five minutes and 24 seconds – with results collected during the study ranging from just 33 seconds to 44 minutes.
Writing for MailOnline, sex expert Tracey Cox has revealed that the stage of a relationship can have an effect on how long you can stay at it.
She says: “If you’re about to bed someone you’ve been lusting after for years, it’s probably going to last about three minutes.
“A few months into a relationship – when you’re both still in that frantic, frothing-at-the-mouth period but have relaxed into it – you can be at it for hours at a time.”
Meanwhile, Tracey explains that long-term couples develop the ability to efficiently pleasure their partner – with sex generally lasting between five and 20 minutes.
Tip for couples
1. Communicate during sex
2. Use arousal levels to decide what’s next
3. Switch stimulation
4. Change positions or location
2. Use arousal levels to decide what’s next
3. Switch stimulation
4. Change positions or location
However, she also warns that it takes women a lot longer to reach orgasm – but there are some simple steps you can take to keep going for longer.
She says: “Get into the habit of telling each other exactly where you’re at, arousal wise.
“If he’s nearly at the finish line but you’ve barely started? Stop his stimulation entirely and get him to switch his focus to concentrating entirely on you.”
Tracey also advises switching it up during sex – whether that’s changing positions, stimulation or even the room.
And women can take control in the bedroom by getting on top, and slowing down or speeding things up depending on how close he is.
Meanwhile, it’s worth noting that the more often a man orgasms, the longer he’ll last next time – and if things are ending too quickly, the ‘squeeze’ technique can help keep them going.
Tracey explains: “When he’s highly aroused, firmly squeeze the head of the penis for 15-20 seconds, putting your thumb on the frenulum (the stringy piece of skin where the head connects to the shaft) and first and second fingers on top of the head.”
Tips for women
1. Take charge
2. Give him multiple orgasms
3. Develop orgasm triggers
4. Use the squeeze technique
2. Give him multiple orgasms
3. Develop orgasm triggers
4. Use the squeeze technique
The international sex, body language and relationships expert also advises women to develop orgasm ‘triggers’, such as heavy breathing, to help speed up the process.
She says: “The more your brain travels a certain path neurologically, the more effortless it becomes. Focus on what you naturally do on approach to orgasm, then exaggerate it.
“Get to the point where your brain thinks ‘Aha! Deep heavy breathing combined with toe flexing means she’s about to orgasm. Better get cracking then and make it happen!’.”
And it’s not just women – Tracey also advises men to slow down, and opt for a position that isn’t the usual favourite to avoid becoming too stimulated too quickly. As well as this, having a solo orgasm first can give men better control when it comes to actually having sex.
Tips for men
1. Slow down
2. Avoid your favourite position
3. Have a solo session first
4. Rate your arousal or use the stop-start technique
2. Avoid your favourite position
3. Have a solo session first
4. Rate your arousal or use the stop-start technique
Meanwhile another way for men to stay in control, according to Tracey, is to practise the stop-start technique.
She explains: “During a solo sex session, bring yourself to the brink then stop four times before finally allowing yourself to orgasm. Continue this ‘training’ for several weeks until you feel you know the point you can bring yourself to without letting go.”
On top of this, another technique for men is to get in the habit of rating arousal levels out of 10.
Tracey says: “The better you know your orgasm, the more you’ll know exactly what’s going to send you over the edge.
“As you move from no arousal to lift-off, you’ll move through the spectrum from 1-10. Practice rating yourself and you’ll have much more control over when you orgasm
“As you move from no arousal to lift-off, you’ll move through the spectrum from 1-10. Practice rating yourself and you’ll have much more control over when you orgasm
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